Let Daddy do it!

Alice Seba:   Hey it’s Alice Seba from babyandtoddlerville.com.  This week I am broadcasting from my laundry room, as far away from my husband as possible because if he hears me talking about this week’s topic, he’s going to pipe up with all kinds of comments and things like that.  So don’t tell him, don’t tell him I’m here. 

We’ll talk to him another day.  But last week I talked about getting just a little more time to yourself and making sure that you are continuing to do the things that you enjoy doing even if you are a busy new mom it doesn’t matter.  I want to talk more about that this week but this time I want to talk about it from the daddies’ perspective. 

Last week Baby Talk Radios resident expert Armin talked about bonding like dads bonding with baby which is super important.  We moms give birth, we breast feed, or we do most of the bottle feeding for bottle feeding and we spend most of the time with baby. 

But daddies need their love too.  I mean that in a few ways, I’ve met so many moms that are so protective of babies that they didn’t even trust their own partners with the baby or maybe they trusted maybe their own mother a little bit with the baby but they are still hesitant to give daddy that same trust. 

These moms wouldn’t go out, they hold baby all the time, even when the dad offers to help.  Now I know some dads are a little fearful of the new baby but they can’t get over that fear unless given the chance.  But when things do work out that way, mommy doesn’t want to give up; instead of daddies getting bonding time, instead he ends up doing chores, running errands and the household tasks. 

I absolutely agree that daddy needs to be doing those things but daddy also needs some baby love too.  Working him to the bone and saying it’s for your family isn’t as rewarding as a bit of time with just baby and him without you looking over his shoulder telling him you need to hold babies head this way or do this, things like that.  Show him that you trust him by giving him an hour or so with the baby or something. 

Go out of the house, go for a walk, grab a quick lunch with a friend or go buy yourself something nice. If you aren’t feeling so great about your figure, accessories can go a long way to making you feel a bit more attractive.  Maybe some jewelry, it doesn’t have to be expensive.  A new bag or whatever.  Speaking of feeling attractive, there is something else that daddy needs. 

He needs a confident wife that knows she is just as beautiful as the day he met her.  On the flip side he also wants to know that you still find him attractive and that you haven’t traded in your passion for him for a life of poopy diapers.  Well obviously there is going to be plenty of poopy diapers and lots of sleepless nights but make time for each time. 

And don’t forget how you made the baby in the first place!  If you get run down and not feel good about yourself, we’ve all been there.  You carried the baby for nine months and now that the baby is here it’s left your body a wreck and he needs your constant attention but that break here and there is not only good for you but its good for daddy and baby too. 

Well that’s it for me for this week.  I hope you will drop by momstalkforum.com and if you need a little help taking that step to taking time for yourself or trusting your baby’s daddy just a little bit more, do drop by.  Talk to you soon.